Who have you confided in?

[Amethyst]

A simple question to get the forum up and running. This has been asked frequently, and you need not reply if doing so would only frustrate you.

Who have you told of your therianthropy, and how did they react?
(If you're new to the concept of therianthropy, this (http://www.shadowsden.org/information/concepts.html) page will explain the basics.)

When I first put a label on myself, I was very excited. And dumb. I felt the need to share this wonderful news with all of my friends. It probably wouldn't have gone over so badly if I'd explained it better. Hint: "Werewolf" is not the best terminology to use when describing your therianthropy to an outsider. It's possibly the worst thing you can do because it's completely misleading. I spent hours explaining that I was not a satanist, I wasn't allergic to silver, and I didn't expect to shapeshift into a wolf anytime soon.

My closest friends know what I am. With the exception of one friend, none of them believe that such a thing as therianthropy exists, and I'm content with this. At least the satanism questions have subsided. As for talking to family, attempting to have a serious discussion on anything spiritual with my parents would not go over well. Huge understatement. I'm not going to try, and frankly I'm past the stage of caring who knows about my inner self and who doesn't. I've learned that sometimes it's best to keep personal issues to oneself.

Would anyone else like to share?

[Xzengrim]

I would like to share... but frankly, I have nothing to share. I haven't told anyone, although I would really like to. I don't really have any friends though, and things are bad enough already with what family I have, that I don't need this complicating things further. I wish I knew some other weres, in real life. But I don't think there are any out here. That really hurts.
Subsequently, though, Grim oozes wolves through all the cracks in his personality. Everyone around him seems to understand that he likes wolves WAY more than is healthy... but they will make no accusations. Over the last year, my bedroom turned from something of a heavy-meal themed art studio... into a part of the forest. I covered three of the walls with a forest mural, and put in an oriental rug, and covered the remaining wall with pictures of wolves. The whole place smells like foresty incense, and I have these CD's of wolves singing playing all the time. There are plants now, too. I'm hoping one day it will be a real forest, where I can run and sleep and play with other wolves. You never know.

[YoungFang]

Well I (rather stupidly) told my parents first. It didn't really do anything they just thought I was fooling around and then I told a friend from school and soon the whole of my year knew. Despite all that I only had the odd comment and no one was really bothered, one of my friends got more stick for being a pagan and practising wicca. If I went through it again I wouldn't tell anyone not really because I'm worried about their opinions but because it's more of an invidual thing and I think personal. I believe it's about you and no one else around you and to me telling people made no difference. i don't really consider it a secret it's more of a belief system some people are bothered by it others are not but their opinion should't matter.

[Nivek]

I have told many people that I am a Werewolf and many of them reacted with idle curiosity. Some were scared untill I told them what it ment, that I was around to protect the innocent. A few told me that they too were Werewolves and that they now knew what attracted them to me. Personally I have never ment any other type of Werecreature.

[DarkOmegaWolf]

A few people know about my interest in wolves, and many have small ideas. But, I don't go round telling everyone...

Before telling anyone, you should ask yourself if you really need to tell them, and then what they're reaction is probably going to be. Then again, this isn't reliable, so, just go with your gut feeling, but be ready for all types of consequences.

And also...like Xzengrim said, a lot of people will probably guess if you act more openly..but they won't accuse you of anything if they are really friends..they will wait for you to be ready to tell them.

[AdamWolf]

For myself, I have chosen to not tell any friends or family, the only friends that know are the ones I have met on here, I think its easier to be more open in places like this where everyone has come to talk about the same thing, so explaining things is a lot easier. I think parents would be the worst to try and explain it too, first off the whole idea of therianthropy would be a bit much for anyone who doesn' really understand to try and take on board, but try to explain it to parents who invisage you to be perfect to them and suddenly you are making yourself out to be different and not normal. Parents then become very protective over what they imagined you to be, they have this mould in their minds that you are to fill and now cause you dont fit that, the talks of 'don't be so silly', 'course your not', will begin to try and refit you into the nice normal person they perceived you to be. so I think unless they are very openminded that parents would be fully understanding. I do have a lot of wolf stuff and as far as they know is I just like wolves a lot and thats as much as I ever want them to, though my sister is someone I would like to talk to and open up to at some point. But I think the best place to talk about it for me is here on the net with friends. It really is a nice private world where as long as no one has acces to your PC, you can express those inner feelings and discuss them without worrying about being laughed at.

[DarkOmegaWolf]

Yeah...same here.

[Wolvaurynomir]

I have an online friend who I've known for three years (just about the same amount of time I've tacked the title of "therianthrope" on my chest) and only a few weeks ago did she find out. I gave her a link to my site and she saw something about therianthropy there while I was talking to her. She suddenly blurted out that she is also a therian' (a coyote, to be exact). So I suppose it works both ways. ;)

[Alphawolf]

I'm never telling anyone. It's better that way

[Ahroun]

Well, since i can reamember my parents say very often i look like a wolf or dog behave. But i am pretty sure if now i would tell them what i am, that they would put me on a clinic or something LOL

Anyway, no one knows it except 2 persons. One is my bf (also theriantrope), and another very good friend on the other side of the globe, that also is one.
Obviously they know cause i know they would understand me, in something.
To the rest of people around (including good friends) no one knows it.

[SoulScream]

Just about anyone who knows me knows about my therianthropy, including my grade 12 sociology class after I did a project on therianthropy. It doesn't bother my friends at all. My sister doesn't care, my sociology class asked questions and then wnet on treating me the way they always did, and my parents...They are the only ones who reacted negatively. They like to make jokes and try to tease me about it. Which is one of the reasons I don't talk to them anymore. Aside from that, it's all been good.

[wolfwolf]

For me it's like this: I like wolves (and maybe it goes a lot deeper than that), big deal. I wouldn't label myself or consider telling anyone "confiding" unless I had or could physically shift.

[Wolf-Bone]

In real life, I've directly told exactly TWO people. And only because I had been very close friends with them for quit a while (one of them since the second grade), and because they, like me were generally open to unorthodox ideas, and less than social butterflies. So it's not like they would've had anything to gain by blabbing to anyone. And even then it wasn't like I went to them and said "oh btw, I've got the spirit of a wolf". It resulted from asking where I keep my artwork online. So of course I gave them the URL to my site. I figured they'd probably stumble across the written content, which I wasn't worried about because I knew them well enough to know I could trust them with very personal information like that (and furthermore, not to hand my link to every Tom Dick and Harry at school).And afterwards, they brought it up (Im just happy a few people actually read my material and don't just look at the eye candy). Being the open minded, contemplative people I knew they were, instead of labelling me or accusing me of something, they actually asked where they could find more information about this spiritual path.

I know some people have been outward about thier spirituality and have taken some bullshit for it, but sometimes it's blatant exhibitionism which is just about the best way to invite it. Spirituality is supposed to be more about the individual practicing it than letting everyone know what they practice. It's not as if we have the justification of faiths like Christianity where spreading the word is part of the doctrine itself.

[Xzengrim]

Hey Bone... you think that's an interesting internet story? I gave a couple friends of mine my Email address when I got it, which I'm sure they promptly threw away because I never got any calls about "the whole werewolf thing". And this is how I know... anyone knows, if you google Xzengrim or his address, all of his werewolf writings come up. Well, I've got a friend (or I used to before he moved) IRL who is really into wolves and werewolves and what all, and I know for a fact he's viewed the site here. One day we were talking and it came up, and he mentioned that there are a bunch of werewolf sites on the internet. Oh, says I? Yeah, he says, but most everyone on them is absolutely out of their minds. He proceeded to mention some of the denizens of the site INCLUDING XZEN HIMSELF as examples!
I was right there in front of him, and he talked about what a nutjob my alter ego is!! It was a real Batman moment.
So I haven't been found out yet. Although today at a class of mine, I had to present a project about my life... and most of it was a comic strip about werewolves. People laughed... but nobody saw the truth. That I know of...

[Kishi-Garou]

I don't tack the label were or 'therian' on myself publically, but everyone pretty much knows from all the pet names I get from my pack. (Don't go and think, oh joy, another nutter with a pack, they're the people i've grown up with over the past few years, and they're quite family, but not blood related, and a nice ring of friends.)

Who here gets called 'wolfie' all the time?

And man, i'm beginning to think there are more canines than wolves on this site.. I saw a coyote today, and the only real difference in behaviour is social structure, and what they eat/hunt.

So. I'm a Canine. WooT!

So, if you don't know, you don't know me.
:wavey:

[Xzengrim]

Kishi... you have a pack? That's so cool! I wish I had one. But I don't have any friends out here (I used to, but no longer), and there's no one I can tell about my therianthropy. Oh well.
BTW... In life I am called "Wolf". So of course I get the derivatives like Wolfy and what all.
And do you mean you saw a coyote? Here online, or in real life? I saw a coyote today. And a fox. And some wolves last week. But the only creatures I've seen online are wolves and the occasional otherkin like fae or dragon or elvish or something. Werewolf as I am myself... I can't help but scoff at those people anyway.
Oh well.

[Kishi-Garou]

Kishi... you have a pack? That's so cool! I wish I had one. But I don't have any friends out here (I used to, but no longer), and there's no one I can tell about my therianthropy. Oh well.
BTW... In life I am called "Wolf". So of course I get the derivatives like Wolfy and what all.
And do you mean you saw a coyote? Here online, or in real life? I saw a coyote today. And a fox. And some wolves last week. But the only creatures I've seen online are wolves and the occasional otherkin like fae or dragon or elvish or something. Werewolf as I am myself... I can't help but scoff at those people anyway.
Oh well.

Real life, buddy ro. So, how is the rockies?

[wolvenmoonpriestess]

Only a few people know, a couple of witch friends (though they seem to lean towards it being a magickal process rather then just being *shrugs* but oh well), and just other werewolves I know online. None of my friends up here know, and nor will they. They know I am pagan but that is all they are going to get. First of all I do not feeling comfortable telling most nonweres. Online it doesn't particularly matter but in a real situation I wouldn't say one word. Generally even online I do not say anything half of the time unless it is in a werewolf group.

wolvenmoonpriestess

[gulogulo7]

No pack for me I'm solo, enlarging turf. Rochester, New York. Everyone knows of me, Nobody Knows ME.http://werewolf.com/vb/images/smilies/beerchug.gif I'll eat anything in my way.

[Cape]

I have told only one person, who is a very close friend. I'm not really afraid of what people will think, i just don't want to deal with explaining it to people who don't understand.

although it might come out at some point this year at school. i'm in an english class called "Literature of Personal Discovery" for the last half of my Senior year, and according to my friends who have taken it, you have to talk a lot about yourself in that class. depending on how comfortable i feel at the time, i might just BS my way through the class to make myself seem "normal" to the morons in the class who just wait for an excuse to harass someone about something.

[Xzengrim]

Check it out: my family are all freaks!
I am a therian. My father suspects this, but he won't out me because he knows that I'll tell my mother that he's secretly converted to Buddhism. Likewise, I won't out him because he knows about all of my wolf-talismans and stuff. My sister thinks I'm a schizophrenic lycanthrope, because she knows that I like wolves way more than normal but she doesn't know what therianthropy is. I would ask her about it, but she's one of those crazy Born-Agains... the whole thing is a big mess.
Secret alliances, non?

[Quicksilver]

Yes I should change my name...
to the wolves here I say howdy...
everyone i know.though I hate to brag.. seeks me for advice.. I like to toot my own horn and call myself a sage of sorts.. but kid you not.. i did not label myself a bear.. at many points in my life I was attributed or personified to that of a bear.. from street fights.. to eating habits..haha to all who know me... and by the select few who have witnessed me lumber from my room in the wee hours of the am..
now with the whole tellin peoples... nope I'm not a shifter..don't think ya can... I just think it is more of a totem.. and getting intouch with the very real spirit realm... sorry folks but the cherokee were right.. there are spirits... and your affinity to an animal.. just shows... but our kind is dying.. the gallant.. the bravado... whatever you would call our spirit.
I would like to address the immense hatred I have for the upcoming movie..brother bear..die disney die...
sorry.. but my point is.. though you may never pshift...trust me... you are akin ..but DONT try to join a wild pack..lol.. I know a coyote..lol.. and he tried.. and was in the UofChicago Medical center for plastic surgery...lol.. well lemme know if you wanna yell at me err somethin

[spottedbymoonlight]

I have chosen to confide in no one, merely for the reason that no one I know would be one of those *understanding* kinda people. Nor do I feel some rushing need to tell the world of my kitty-ness. Though I do wish I knew some other therianthropes. It gets kinda lonely sometimes. BTW, enjoy the night!

[Moonlight]

I have chosen to confide in no one, merely for the reason that no one I know would be one of those *understanding* kinda people. Nor do I feel some rushing need to tell the world of my kitty-ness. Though I do wish I knew some other therianthropes. It gets kinda lonely sometimes. BTW, enjoy the night!

I agree. Even my closest friends and family wuold not understand, and so, I tell no one. I haven't even told my boyfriend. I think that he could understand, because he has always been so open-minded, but I fear what might happen if I did.

I think that if you cannot trust someone with something so personal and secret, then are they really your friends or family? But, I find solace in that they don't need to know, because it could scare them.

[MisterRogers]

Isn't it such a wonderful feeling to let others know that you care about them, or to tell someone they're special? I know that when I tell someone that I care about them, they like to tell me the same thing, too.

[SilverDraco]

I confided in a few of my closest friends, and one of them blurted it out to a teacher. Now, the whole school knows me better by the nickname that teacher gave to me than the name I was given at birth. The nickname itself is pretty self explanatory, being Draco, and most people ask me why I think this I'm a dragon, not why I'm such a retard for being different. then we have to go into the whole story about how I got started on dragons, how I came to realize it and, no I am not alone. At least we can say we're individuals, in a sense.

[Quicksilver]

I confided in a few of my closest friends, and one of them blurted it out to a teacher. Now, the whole school knows me better by the nickname that teacher gave to me than the name I was given at birth. The nickname itself is pretty self explanatory, being Draco, and most people ask me why I think this I'm a dragon, not why I'm such a retard for being different. then we have to go into the whole story about how I got started on dragons, how I came to realize it and, no I am not alone. At least we can say we're individuals, in a sense.

Does anyone think he would have named himself "draco" if sean connery didn't voice the character?? Or maybe it is just a "cool" sounding name??? I hate ignorant people.. :banghead:

[Lone Werewolf]

I've only totally discussed my theriantropy with two of my closest friends, one of whom is wiccan. They're pretty helpful and insightful when I got questions or stuff to talk about. I've hinted and joked about it to my other friends, but as far as they know, I'm just a werewolf fanatic.

[holy_will]

I've told a few of my school friends; I figured it wouldn't be so bad since they were among the wierdest bunch in school and all. WEll, I assumed they would start asking questions. One acted as if I hadn't said anything at all, and the other two took it totally the wrong way. They thought of a therian, or werewolf, as a man eating monster that came out on full moons... stereotypical.... I have a difficult enough time explaining even the simplest of things, but Therianthrope; talk about a difficult subject to explain.

I've also told two of my family members, my cousin thinks I am insane and left it at that, but my sister completely accepts it... Unless she is just saying that, in which case I am talking on and on for nothing... :o

I think I've actually told my mother at one point. Of course, she forgets everything so fast there was no harm in doing so.

[SilverDraco]

Does anyone think he would have named himself "draco" if sean connery didn't voice the character?? Or maybe it is just a "cool" sounding name??? I hate ignorant people.. :banghead:



I am a female, not a male. I was given the name by a close friend of mine a few years ago, and he swears that it was not because of Sean Connery's character in the movie Dragonheart.

[Dreamcatcher]

I only told my best friend in the universe she is also a therian,
and we discovered that we r therians 'bout the same time..
WE suport eachother in everything! Now she's in america 4 the school year *sob* :cry:
I didn't tell anyone else..but I will tell the 2
other members of my coven (wiccan)!
And the most interesting thing is that she is a wolf-girl an'
am a cat-boy LOL!
But it get's ugly when we fight..she bites! :D
Somebody plz kill that Quicksilver guy :banghead:
MORON!

[SheWolf]

I agree with ur viewpoint,
it's the best to leave it unsaid
or just tell the partial truth..
the only one who knows the real
truth about me is DreamCatcher...
I tryed to tell others, but
it all ended up pretty bad, so I just
don't try anymore...less trouble

[Dreamcatcher]

I agree with ur viewpoint,
it's the best to leave it unsaid
or just tell the partial truth..
the only one who knows the real
truth about me is DreamCatcher...
I tryed to tell others, but
it all ended up pretty bad, so I just
don't try anymore...less trouble

- OH honey-wolf I looooooove you muchissimo!
*kiss noiz*
Now let's all join forces and kick Q-silver's N.U.T.Z.
all the way to the place his brain SHOULD be! :beerchug:

[Quicksilver]

i have only told two people, one of them a pure vampire. they both are what i call "Kasa," which in my language means basically a friend who has been with you in spirit throughout your life and who you can trust like no other. they merely accept me for who i am, no ridicule or anything, and no fights either about who's better. (the other person is only human, or he hasn't revealed himself yet.) so it's great when we three get together--him as a human, her as the vampire and me the wolf-vampire hybrid.

I have a few questions for ya....

A friend of mine is a total wack job, and claims that she is a vampire. Now trust me, i see her in the daylight, and I see her eating food. She is 100% normal, except that she claims to be the REINCARNATION of lillith and a vampire....
:banghead:

Now you say your buddy is a true vampire... what does this mean? Do you, or your friend have any advice for dealing with this lunatic?

[Moonlight]

Now you say your buddy is a true vampire... what does this mean? Do you, or your friend have any advice for dealing with this lunatic?

(Sorry, off-topic)

I think I can answer that for you Quicksilver. Vampirism is a disease, much like aids. People who suffer from vampirism lack a certain 'energy' that scientists have not been able to name, but find it extremely potent in normal human blood. This virus in question, mutates the body in the period of at least a decade, called the Toxic stage, where the body adapts to acquiring this energy it needs from other sources. So, the afflicted people consume blood. If they do not, they become severely depressed, very ill, and even death can occur.

There are also other types of vampires other than blood, such as Psi vamps. They steal the 'energy' of humans through psychic means. Those who are able to read auras or the like, are sometimes able to see them feeding. They report seeing shimmering 'tentacles' reaching from the Psi vamp and grasping the unsuspecting human.

There are also succubi and inccubi who acquire energy through sexual release.

Okay, that's all I can think of right now...I'm supposed to be doing a project for my psych class...

[silenceowl]

I just told the first person today a good friend of mine whom I’ve know since 7 grade (6 years) he saw me on this website and was curious about it. I told him what it was (I did not mention the word were-owl or werewolf) I just said it was a place for people who have a strong connection to a certain animal to come and communicate he said he would check it out later. (I’m not so sure he would fit in thought his animal is a deer, a deer surrounded by wolves and leopards and cougars not a pretty site) :beerchug:

[Moonlight]

Vampires may have once had the problems you state (not being able to live in daylight, not eating human food, etc) but after a while, I would think something evolved.

What I stated in my post is the truth, and is scientifically supported.

They are not a 'species'. Therefore, they cannot evolve. It is a virus. A virus can evolve, but not a human. Vampires are not quite human, but this is only so because their illness mutated slightly the way their organs function.

[Moonlight]

Ok, sorry, my bad...I skim-read sometimes and I must've missed that one. If it's the truth, it's the truth and I was wrong. :)

It's all right :) I just wanted to make sure there was no misconception. I hope I didn't come off too cold :( I was in an irritable mood last night...no biggie.

[lachrymal]

i haven't told anybody...people tend to think i'm strange enough without me shouting "look at me ya'll, i'm a werewolf!" by the way, i didn't mean any offense to anybody by that comment.

[LiquidAvatar]

Is it just me or is Quick rather...well, Quick to bash others for their ways of life??? Hmmm... Embodiment of Lilith eh? I didn't think I told you that part PAUL... God you need a good swift boot to the head for your idiocies... You think you know everything... Well step on my toes again and you'll regret it. That's a promise.

[david bill]

I myslef have told one person, one of the 2 friends i have, hes a vamp. a realy creepy one, but non the less, a good friend. he accepts that im a were, adn iot doesnt bother him at all, but im kinda thinking about not tellin anyone else about it.

[LycanSpectre]

I have told 4 people. 3 freinds from my dorm and my sister. And I regret telling anyone other than my sister. I have had some very drunken conversations with those friends, and they reacted with hostility because I am not what they call "christian" or "normal". Like I said, I regret telling them. :shrug: Ah well, its done. I'll live, and so will they, as long as they dont try to use it against me.

[Lincal]

I have told no one.
The only thing most friend know is that I'm a crazy guy who is fond of wolfs and werewolfs. But even if some make fun about that ( especialy my brother ), they don't really know I can call myself "werewolf".
And because of the job of my parents ( doctors ), I don't think it's a good idea to talk about that with them( unless I want to visit an psy hospital... lol ).
And I don't know if I should speak of that thing with my friend... I'm already looking enought crazy... :shrug:

[SilverIce]

I don't like to share the fact that I'm wolf because It might scare people like some of you have said. I won't tell my boyfriend until i know him well enough to trust him. But it could scare him aswell. I can't shift yet but I want to learn. That was off topic. Sorry.

I don't have many friends that I trust so I'm keeping quiet. It is nice to be able to talk about it here with everyone. :cool:

[LycanSpectre]

I agree that just walking up to someone and saying "Hi, I have the spirit of a wolf" or "Im a wolf" would be unsettling to most people, especailly if they had no idea how the actual animal acts. In reality wolves are not the bloodthirsty killing maniacs that the media has made them out to be. Anyone who says different is full of shit. Anyone who wants to say that they have the soul of a wolf without taking this into account WOULD be very dangerous. So I recomend that if you tell anyone, you qualify the statement "Im a wolf" by explaining that you mean the REAL animal. That is a lot easier to swallow. Just a thought.

[Wolfy]

I don't have many close friends... I haven't told anyone about what I have inside... but I have once told my friends my highest wish would be becoming a werewolf.

[Wolfy]

My daddy who is a really wise person and also very funny is acting like a wolf... he's a teacher, 2 years till retirenment, he keeps referring his students as wolfpups and himself as a leadingwolf. I'm serious that he's really wise. He is the most wise person I have ever met, not because he's my dad but he is wise. He have trained yoga and lots of other that stuff, he's strong mentaly and physically. 3 words, my daddy rule!

[Night_Wolf]

I have not said anything about this to anyone until now. If I did, the person I told would either laugh in my face, or end up telling the whole world, which would mean public humiliation for me. I don't really need to tell anyone now. This site has allowed me to get it off my chest and finally find people who are like me in many ways.

THANKS. :)