Lonelyness

[Wraywolf]

For those that don’t know, I’m 15 years old, and I’m in 10th grade. The time just after the emotional peaks of adolescence.

Now, I’m a loner, I have no group of friends, and I never have. I rather like being a loner, because I’ve never really been secure around other kids my age, or anyone for that matter. I see how people act towards other people. They act real friendly when they first meet, casual conversation, hey, what about the weather? fucking crazy. Then, when they turn around “god, that guy was a dumbass.” I don’t like that. I’ve seen the way girls talk about their friends behind their backs, too. Really vicious things. About there friends. I’ve just never been able to get to close to people because of this. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not one of those kids that goes around saying “all humans suck!”, I just prefer to be alone, and have fun alone.

Well, lately, I’ve been getting mass surges of loneliness. I mean, out of nowhere, I’d want to be in a group. With people. And now, I want a partner. This is a sudden desire that I have expreesed no need for in the past, yet it is with me constantly. I have an incredible urge to start a relationship, and share my life… blah, you old guys probably know what I’m talking about.

Frankly, I think it’s hormones, but these desires come on real strong, and they’re lasting longer as each day goes by. I don’t usually ask for advice, I like to give it, but if anyone has any sort of comment or word of wisdom, I would like to hear it.

EDIT: next time, I should proof read things like this so I don't end up sounding like a dumbass.

[Quicksilver]

For those that don’t know, I’m 15 years old, and I’m in 10th grade. The time just after the emotional peaks of adolescence.

Now, I’m a loner, I have no group of friends, and I never had. I rather like being a loner, because I’ve never really been secure around other kids my age, or anyone for that matter. I see how people act towards other people. They act real friendly, then, when they turn around “god, what a dumbass.” I don’t like that. I’ve seen the way girls talk about their friends behind their backs, too. Really vicious things. About there friends. I’ve just never been able to get to close to people, because of this. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not one of those kids that go around saying “all humans suck!”, I just prefer, as a person, to be alone and have fun alone.

Well, lately, I’ve been getting mass surges of loneliness lately. I mean, out of nowhere, I’d want to be in a group. With people. And now, I want a partner. It’s a sudden urge that is with me constantly. I have an incredible urge to start a relationship, and share… blah, you old guys probably know what I’m talking about.

Frankly, I think it’s hormones, but these desires come on real strong, and they’re lasting longer as each day goes by. I don’t usually ask for advice, I like to give it, but if anyone has any sort of comment or word of wisdom, I would like to hear it.


Well... maybe it is just natural? Both humans and animals look for mates, and humans are family/pack minded... not really loner friendly.
Well if you are just looking for friends, then you should just watch who you put your trust in... and make sure you don't get to attached to friends, and then get overly emotional when one does something to hurt you.
and when it comes to a partner.. just go get a girlfriend. Nothing to hard about that. Or maybe you are looking for a pack? Maybe a totem urge? just start askin around this site for people near you if you are looking for friends near by...
:buttrock:

[YoungFang]

That's why it sucks being in a socially dependant speices. I found myself in a slightly different predicament. I was inadvertantly bullied for a while, friends that I thought cared abandoned me at school and then depression took a hold for four years. I was in a real state even in tears in class and the teachers didn't even care. Now I was a sort of loner sometimes I like being on my own doing what I want to do and something I want to be around other people and that leaves conflicting emotions. I didn't talk in school for a few months because of what my 'friends' did and have a really hard time communicating. Trust for me now if virtually non-existant. So I've experienced how people can treat others first hand.

So what can I add? Well unfortunately however much you hate it all of us have social needs of some kind it's how we live and it can cause some problems in school, college and work life. Unfortunately you cnnot be a loner all the time. In most working environments communication is essential. You need to achieve a balance between the two. You never knowing what you're missing untill you've missed it.

[Ender]

Wait it out- At 15 I was also a "loner", but I was also reading and learning as much as I could from the people around me and whatever material I could get my hands on. I really was active in thier politics and drama, I just wasn't as open about it as everyone else was, and I learned alot from them. Mainly, how NOT to think and act. Ha, even today when I go to school and see those people, I rest easy knowing I'll always have a job as long as I have to compete with these people. Enough about me though- ::WACK::

I didn't come up to the "loneliness" you're experiencing, I would suggest get a job or two(Fill the void?), get the best grades you can(Time filler), take the courses in high school that'd allow you to move onto what ever carrer or occupation that interests you(Keep your mind occupied). Wait for 16, get your permit, license, THEN, at 17 or 18, start to date. Dating before being able to drive is like learning to walk on a 2x4 30 feet in the air; You can do it, but whats the point?

Don't worry about it, you ever have an emotion or something similar you're wondering about, ask. I don't launch my trebuchet for legit questions.http://www.werewolf.com/vb/images/icons/icon14.gif

[wolfwolf]

You don't sound like a dumbass. David bill was a dumbass. :D
Yes, being alone is good sometimes. But humans and wolves both need companions. I would advise that you try to find someone with common interests or something like that. And being self-confident is always good.

[LV426]

A. Humans DO suck :D

B. Relationships in highschool suck.

C. Getting involved in highschool melodrama is self defeating.

D. There are no friends in highschool unless you find an outcast like yourself. (Sometimes this does happen but they are rarely the opposite sex so no dating will take place unless you are homosexual which in that case your friend would be of the opposite sex and you still wouldn't get a date or laid.) The rest of those obnoxious self conceited Twat Twinkies (TM) are not worthy of your time and basically are only out to see how popular they can be. Do you really want to be Prom Queen?

E. Forget the social life, learn as much as you can cause later you will have much more fun watching those prom queens and kings scramble for a brain between them.

F. Find a way to have fun even if at someone else's expense. AND NO ANGST!!! :D




You could always make the other kids in school think you are psychotic. It makes you suddenly popular in a scary sort of way. :droolbloo

[Blackjaguarkat]

When I was in Highschool I was a Loner also and an Outcast. I too at around the age you are wanted to "Fit in". I tried and failed to "Fit in" and was made even more of an Outcast than I was before, if that is even possible. I followed my own drummer and I still do. I've been out of high school since 1994. Thoes kids that made fun of me in high school now look up to me. It's weird but I've been told by alot of them that they envied me because I could be myself and I diodn't have to be like them. My only piece of advise I can give you is : Trust Noone Ever.

[Kishi-Garou]

Just be yourself, by yourself.

Then, find others.

But still be you, Wray. You can trust Kishi on this one.

You're a smart kid, anyways. Just a bit lazy ^_~, and you get swamped during the week because of your mom. I understand your lonliness, but don't jump too fast into a relationship.. i've done that. It gets ya screwed! You start to care too much, then they rip your heart out.

Anyways, you'll eventually find your life again. Its all a part of nature.. whether scientific, or spiritual.

Kishi.

[Quicksilver]

A. Humans DO suck :D

B. Relationships in highschool suck.

C. Getting involved in highschool melodrama is self defeating.

D. There are no friends in highschool unless you find an outcast like yourself. (Sometimes this does happen but they are rarely the opposite sex so no dating will take place unless you are homosexual which in that case your friend would be of the opposite sex and you still wouldn't get a date or laid.) The rest of those obnoxious self conceited Twat Twinkies (TM) are not worthy of your time and basically are only out to see how popular they can be. Do you really want to be Prom Queen?

E. Forget the social life, learn as much as you can cause later you will have much more fun watching those prom queens and kings scramble for a brain between them.

F. Find a way to have fun even if at someone else's expense. AND NO ANGST!!! :D




You could always make the other kids in school think you are psychotic. It makes you suddenly popular in a scary sort of way. :droolbloo

ROFLMAO!!! That is soo true!!

My only addition.. is that there is a time and place to get your significant other.. make alot of friends and party all the time.....college!! :beerchug: Go Huskies!! :buttrock:

[Lone Werewolf]

You could be wanting to be with people 'cause of were-related reasons, like someone said... too lazy to quote them now... or you could just be tired of being alone or whatever. I don't think it's hormones, but you don't have to find a huge group of people to make you happy, hell, I was a loner when I was 15 and I'm still some kind of a loner now, at 18. The thing is, I think it's better to find a few people to connect with, you know, like to become really close friends. I find have a few close friends over a bunch of okay friends is much more benifitial. Seriously, most ('cept my close friends) all gave me weird looks and joked about wereism when I told them a few years back... oh... look at that... I'm rambling... I'll stop now... :banghead:

[Wraywolf]

Do you really want to be Prom Queen?

:eek: WHO TOLD YOU!?

[LV426]

:eek: WHO TOLD YOU!?
Well you are never going to get those votes if you don't start shaving those legs when you wear a dress or skirt. Better yet, wax! it's more effective for avoiding that pesky stubble.

[MisterRogers]

For some people it's difficult to make friends. There are some people that are willing to change who they are on the inside to look better for other people, which they shouldn't have to do. But, you know, you will always have a friend in me, neighbor! Isn't it such a good feeling to know that people still like you even when you're not perfect?

[RQ]

Go Huskies!! :buttrock:


A Northerner.. :banghead:

[Silver moon]

;) :love: :wavey: Hey wraywolf i dunno about anyone else but iu feel the same way u do. we should talk sometimes i'm psycowolfy@yahoo.com or wolfmoon82@msn. Hope to see ya soon.

[Ender]

B. Relationships in highschool suck. WACK! If you dont' realise this, get the stick out of your ear. Blimey, for guys, females are as chaotic as they're going to be in thier entire lives during this time. It's like playing russian roulete, WITHOUT the empty chameber, and FAR less interesting. For females, every little fuck in that school who's got a prick can't wait to use it and his hormones don't do much to hinder his direct intentions. There are a few, (Me for example, who has other things in mind) who don't go for ANYTHING with legs though, so don't think we're all hormonially insane. Please realise that you are though, and always will be. :p

WrayWolf, to hell with dating, and to hell with females/males (Personal Preference is no matter to me), join me, and we'll conquer the world.
:beerchug:

(Its a sweet gig, a few orders from czarofzen now and then, move some plutonium, wield a few slabs of metal, and the rest of the time is laid back drinking "water"., good times my man, good times http://www.werewolf.com/vb/images/icons/icon14.gif)

[Cape]

I know how you feel. I have some friends, but no one i can really relate to as far as therianthropy goes. I'd like to find some people like me in my area, but not exactly sure how without exposing myself to all the wrong people.

[Xzengrim]

AAAAHHH!!! AAAAAAAAHHH! So lonely!! Why god why?? Why are there no weres where I live?! Why is there no one here to talk to?!! Bahh! (Reminded of opening part to Trigun episode... can't remember which one... the one right after Paradise, I think.)

[holy_will]

I was anti-social up to grade 11, I am now in grade 13 (OAC). I have always been extremely paranoid of everything and everyone, and prefered to shy away from other kids as well. I think a lot of people are like that though, people who are different in some way or another. You basically just have to look for those individuals that you feel comfortable putting your trust in. I have a fair group of friends right now, sure we get into some disagreements, but we all generally get along. I am still fidgetty if there are more than a few people about, but it is so much better to have someone to talk to.

[Ender]

don't go looking for a significant other, let them come to you. then decide if it's worth your time and effort. Wrong. To develop usable social skills that will be required for one's future, high school relationships*, on some level, are needed. Whether they be 7 day flings or 5 month stands (this feels like 4 years to a teenager).

I'd say about 2 or 3 of those is better then nothing over all.

On the other side of the spectrum, I'd also say that any school (be it college, high, or middle) based relationship that lasts for more then a year and a half is unhealthy. For someone so young to be attached to another person in a confusing state such as H.S. or college is dangerous, and could do serious if not perminent damage to one's mind. This is more or less my theory though... so yeah.

*Relationship in this context refers to Boyfriend/Girlfriend situations, relationships with friends is very healthy all through one's life and should be had. So I'm told :shrug:

[silenceowl]

For those that don’t know, I’m 15 years old, and I’m in 10th grade. The time just after the emotional peaks of adolescence.

Now, I’m a loner, I have no group of friends, and I never have. I rather like being a loner, because I’ve never really been secure around other kids my age, or anyone for that matter. I see how people act towards other people. They act real friendly when they first meet, casual conversation, hey, what about the weather? fucking crazy. Then, when they turn around “god, that guy was a dumbass.” I don’t like that. I’ve seen the way girls talk about their friends behind their backs, too. Really vicious things. About there friends. I’ve just never been able to get to close to people because of this. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not one of those kids that goes around saying “all humans suck!”, I just prefer to be alone, and have fun alone.

Well, lately, I’ve been getting mass surges of loneliness. I mean, out of nowhere, I’d want to be in a group. With people. And now, I want a partner. This is a sudden desire that I have expreesed no need for in the past, yet it is with me constantly. I have an incredible urge to start a relationship, and share my life… blah, you old guys probably know what I’m talking about.

Frankly, I think it’s hormones, but these desires come on real strong, and they’re lasting longer as each day goes by. I don’t usually ask for advice, I like to give it, but if anyone has any sort of comment or word of wisdom, I would like to hear it.

EDIT: next time, I should proof read things like this so I don't end up sounding like a dumbass.



I had these same feelings, and still do sometimes. I just rode it out they will leave and come back all throughout your life
My advice try to find a mate that will make the loneliness leave......at least for a while.

Good luck and good fortune.

[Ironpaws]

has no friends here lost them long ago.. :'(

[holy_will]

has no friends here lost them long ago.. :'(

Awwww... :(

*gives a hug*

[Xavious]

Iv'e been alone since I was eleven (now 14). I know how these feelings are. So I can give some help (well it helps me get rid of the lonliness). You could try acting the opposite of yourself or pretend you have a split personality. You could do something my teacher once called the 'death stare'. I just stopped moving in class so long someone thought I was dead the first time I tried it (the look on the people's face made me laugh). Also if you practice this long enough it devolps something with your nervous system. It will tense your muscles and it makes move very fast. I am more popular after doing this.

[Rhiakath]

As you may be able to notice, i have been a loner for a while. I dont like it, but I kinda am stuck with it for the most part. A lot of people have broken my heart, and it's been hard to trust anyone. So I stick to my friends, and come to message boards like this, because, in truth, we are all alone, sometimes, and we need others like us to help us through it.

[Xavious]

we are all alone, sometimes, and we need others like us to help us through it.

So true. So very true.

[somuchforsanity]

Ive always been different from everybody else in every single sence. Im constantly told so by mother and some of my friends, but not in a bad way. And in a sence, it makes me feel so much better to know that I AM different from most ppl, since most ppl around me are a morons. I guess you could say, Ive always been the "weird" kid in class, ever since I was little. And I still am, at almost 18 years of age.

The ironic part is that, even though I am different, and I know it, I LOVE to be around people. Even if most of the time I dont have jack shit in common with them, I enjoy being around groups of people a lot. Hehe, maybe Its just that I like the smell of fresh cattle :droolbloo

EDIT: Lol I wrote all that crap and fogot to make my point, which is, dont be afraid to be who you really are. Never change yourself because of peer pressure or whatever, only change when YOU feel you have something you should change. Love yourself how you are, and if you are a loner by nature, love it.

[Nightmare GenoReaper]

Ive always been different from everybody else in every single sence. Im constantly told so by mother and some of my friends, but not in a bad way. And in a sence, it makes me feel so much better to know that I AM different from most ppl, since most ppl around me are a morons. I guess you could say, Ive always been the "weird" kid in class, ever since I was little. And I still am, at almost 18 years of age.

The ironic part is that, even though I am different, and I know it, I LOVE to be around people. Even if most of the time I dont have jack shit in common with them, I enjoy being around groups of people a lot. Hehe, maybe Its just that I like the smell of fresh cattle :droolbloo

EDIT: Lol I wrote all that crap and fogot to make my point, which is, dont be afraid to be who you really are. Never change yourself because of peer pressure or whatever, only change when YOU feel you have something you should change. Love yourself how you are, and if you are a loner by nature, love it.


Stole the words from my soul, as it were. Once you accept who you are, you can make little changes to yourself, that YOU SEE FIT. Never feel depressed about who you are. And if you are, wlel then you need to find a way to change that.


Two ways though. One, give in and change urself (this though rarly works)
Forget about the asses that cause you trouble.